How to Cope in a Love Triangle – Help for the “Other” Man or Woman

by Relationship Coach Rinatta

in Help for the Other Person

Disclaimer: The following article is for the “other” person in an affair or a love triangle. Before I get a slew of angry email asking me how I can condone affairs, let me just say that affairs and love triangles happen. Being a coach I do not judge people but try to help them. Given that love triangles and affairs happen, the people in these situations need help and support, just like people in any other complicated relationship situation. This article does just that – it offers help and support to the people who need it.

To be in love with someone who is in a primary relationship or marriage with someone else can be the most excruciating and at the same time the most seemingly beautiful experience of your life.

The experience is excruciating because it is hard to stop or change it. It ensnares you in a situation that you may not be able to get out for a long time, one you may in fact not want to get out of. Your inability to make the situation into exactly what you want makes you suffer.

The experience is beautiful because the person that you are having the relationship with seems like your perfect, ideal partner — your soulmate. There is a very special connection between the two of you. The attention from your loved one and the way he or she feels about you is deeply satisfying. The bond between the two of you seems magical.

In spite of the beauty and the connection in the relationship, you suffer tremendously. It’s as if you are on a roller coaster ride, up one moment and more in love than you have ever been, down the next and in more despair than you have ever felt.

Below you will discover the reasons you are suffering in your relationship and coping strategies to ease your suffering.

#1 Reason for your suffering – you think your loved one is “the one”

At times you want to leave the situation, but you don’t feel you can – you feel your loved one is “the one”, the intended one for you. Not being able to be together with your “the one” all of the time causes you pain. But when you try to leave, you feel agony. The pain of having a part-time relationship is great, the pain of leaving is even greater. The pain you feel when thinking of leaving or trying to leave reaffirms to you that your loved on is in fact “the one”.

Coping strategy to consider:
What if this person you are in love with is not “the one”, not your soulmate? What if this relationship is only a step — a big, significant step – but not “the one”? What if you are not trapped in the situation, waiting for your intended one to extricate him- or herself from someone who is not “the one”?

In fact you are not trapped. You feel trapped because you feel the person you are with is “the one”, and that you cannot let him or her go.

How do you know if he or she is “the one”? The pain of trying to leave is not a reliable way to tell. That pain can be attributed to other reasons, such as your deep fear of being alone – which most people have – or how much of your needs are getting met in the relationship and how much you don’t want to let that go.

You will only know looking back if your loved one was “the one” for you. Most people with love triangles in their past say their loved one turned out to not be their soulmate. When the suffering gets to be too much, start to wonder if in fact your loved one is your “intended one.”

#2 Reason for your suffering – you think there won’t be another love after this relationship

You are suffering because this love feels like your only chance at the kind of love that everyone dreams about. Even more, it’s hard to imagine being in a relationship and being satisfied with anyone else.

And so you are trapped.

All of your needs are not getting met in your relationship, yet all the while you are not free, nor do you want to be free, to get them met elsewhere. In fact, you don’t think there could be or will be anyone else to meet your needs in such a way again, to love you this well.

Coping strategy to consider:
What if there can be love even deeper than your feelings now, a love where you share ordinary moments with a special person, instead of only special moments stolen in secret?

Start to wonder if the whole package of your needs could be met in another relationship. People do find happy, fulfilling, loving primary relationships.

When the suffering about being alone yet again, at night or on holidays, gets going, focus on the fact that in the future you will have a loving relationship where your needs will be met.

If you need to, say to yourself a thousand times that you will be happy, your heart will be happy and all of your needs will be met. You just don’t know by whom yet.

#3 Reason for your suffering – you stifle your anger

Another reason you may be suffering is that you feel anger at your loved one, yet try to stuff that anger inside or pretend you don’t feel it.

You may feel angry at your loved one for staying in his or her primary relationship while being in a relationship with you. You may feel angry at your loved one for making promises that are not being kept, or because you have to spend weekends, holidays and most nights alone, even though you are in a relationship and in love.

Coping strategy to consider: You have every right to feel angry, so go ahead and feel the anger.

This does not mean you need to be mean and belligerent to anyone, including yourself. But it does mean you need to acknowledge your feelings to yourself and to your loved one and it does mean that you need to be authentic about your feelings.

This could mean that sometimes you choose not be with your loved one because you are too angry with him or her for the situation. At times you may need to cry, write in your journal, or hit something safe to get your feelings out.

Support Group For You: If you are the “other” person in an affair or love triangle situation, please head on over to a safe and supportive new group I have created just for you – How To Cope in a Love Triangle – Help for the “Other” Man or Woman. The group is private, supportive and comforting and will help you get coaching and connection with peers in the same situation, struggling with the same issues as yourself. Go join the group now.

From The Heart,
Relationship Coach Rinatta

{ 28 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Michelle M December 15, 2008

I love my boyfriend of 7 years +, but he tends to do things that is ok for him but not
ok for me, kind of thing. I wouldn’t do anyway but accuses me all the time.
Its ok for him to call girls for conversation because they are just friends and go
to bars when I am out of town and gives them his
phone number
and ok for them to be texting him and inviting him to a party and invites the guy he
went to the bar with if he wants to bring him and to top it off, she starts her text
with the word Handsome. Yes….when I come home I have to check his phone once in
awhile to see what he has been up too. I talk to him about it and He accuses me of
doing the same thing he does and I don’t. He will come up with every excuse, and
blame his behavior on me, some thing I did or whatever. He is very manipulating I
know and Why I take it I don’t know. Help me understand Why I keep putting up with
his crap (and he knows I will). I want to get away from him but hate the thought of him
being with someone else and sometimes he is. ?Why I ask myself? He is a really
nice guy and we together can do anything, when things are good they are good and
when they are bad they are bad. People think he is the nicest guy
but I know the jealous angry mean part of him, he can be very jealous and calls
people assholes behind their back when I thought they were actually pretty good
friends. I am not the same person since we have been going out, I don’t talk to alot
of people I use to talk to because he always accused me of flirting with them or would
ask me if I “f”ed them. So I have become a hermit in a sense. Can you help me
understand me better. I don’t talk to anyone about this, so I am kinda messed up in
my own thoughts.. I know what I would tell a friend to do so Why can’t I help MYself

2 Sue March 26, 2009

Hello It’s been two and a half years now since i met and began a relationship with a married man. I’ve been married myself for 10yrs. I though i was inlove until he came along. Now all i want to do is end my existing marriage. I hate to admit that i look down on women and men that do the exact same thing i’m doing but i love this man so much, that i train myself to not think of the hurt i may put his family and mine through. I’m so confused i know i’m not being fair to either party and i know i love my husband but i’m also inlove with the way this man makes me feel.
This extra marital relationship is driving me crazy. However i feel i need this man in my life as much as i need air to survive.
Plz make the pain stop!

3 Relationship Coach Rinatta March 27, 2009

Dear Sue, I am sorry you are in pain. The thing is, for most people being in a love triangle hurts and the only way to stop the pain is to stop the triangle. So unless you are willing to live with the pain, you are going to have to choose either your husband or the other man, no matter how hard it seems to be.
If you would like, I can help you by coaching you on how to greatly improve your marriage, so that letting go of the other man won’t be as hard as you now think.

4 ginger June 3, 2009

I can’t seem to get out of them. Every time I try to start a new relationship, I get myself into a triangle and not a pair.

5 Kat June 4, 2009

I fell for a guy at my uni who had a gf for 3-4years. She goes to another uni nearby. We are all 19. I met him in October. He had talks with her about how he had been enjoying attention from another girl [me], and discussed a break in February. Then overly intimate things happened between me and this guy, and he broke up with her. He told me that he had thought about marrying his ex, but then I came along. For a week, things felt wonderful, even though we were going against what I said – that we shouldn’t do anything until he was properly sorted in his head.
Then he started being distant. He went fom thinking I was amazing, to wanting to be just friends. He had begun to miss his ex, and when he spoke to me last night about it, he said she was perfect – but she won’t have him back. He says he crushed her – but he crushed me too :( Because we had become such close friends, we had tried to stay friends. But it wasn’t working, I couldn’t take not being “allowed” to talk about it anymore [I didn't want to be making him feel bad when he was already clearly feeling bad]. Yesterday I got angry about the whole thing, and now I’m not speaking to him.
This September I’m moving in with him and his flatmates, who are also close friends of mine now, in Halls of Residence in uni. I think it would be best if I didn’t speak to him at all over summer until September so he can get over his ex and I can get over him. Although, I’m not sure if I should apologise for swearing at him over MSN when I was angry before I go home, or if I’d be better off just leaving it alone. :( I don’t want to have to apply to move to another flat in September. I want everything to be nice and happy again. Who knows, maybe when he’s over his ex he’ll want me as more than just a friend again. I’m not going to count on that though.

6 sne June 15, 2009

i think u need 2 get over him it is clear he is not so into u, m sowi kat bt u still young go out there u wl find what u deserve its obvious he lvz hs ex.

7 vanessa June 20, 2009

I have a huge dilemma my BF seems to be the one for me! He’s perfect in everyway! But i dont feel the searing passion my friends describe they feel for there significant other. He’s perfect but I was unhappy for awhile, and met this other guy over the winter break my heart seemed to soar for him even though I met him such a little time. I can’t stop thinking about him, but feel like i cant get rid of my current BF. I cant make up my mind, one day I convincw myself it wont get better than that and other times all i do is daydream about the other guy! The other thing to add is this other guy studies abroad in Brazil but he is the same nationality as me and plans to go back to out HW country when he is done with college which is in 2 years. He knows I have a BF we discuss all the difficult truths honestly. We realize the distance and all of that. But i still cant stop my relationship with my current BF and feel like telling him I cheated on him!! I cant stand the LIE anymore!

8 racken July 8, 2009

what if you fell in love with a guy for 4 months…
and later find out he has a long distance relationship
with another woman…the hard part is that they’ve been
together for 5 years?…and he comes once in a while to
the girls hometown…

after he told me…he asked me again if is it ok if we
could be together after i’ve learned the situation….

i didn’t gave him a definite answer because it really
hurts a lot!…

in the back of my mind….my heart says i love him and
i really liked him a lot!….but my mind says at the
same time it’s wrong…he’s with someone already…
i even asked him before if he’s involve with someone…
and he said no!…and later he admitted to me that
he has a girlfriend!…but he really likes me!..

my heart also questions if he really likes me why
can’t he leave his girlfriend if he’s already looking
for someone else company?…i just don’t get it!..and
it hurts a lot!…

a friend of my got involve in the same situation…and
she pursue it….and i kept asking her why?….now
i guess i already know the answer…she loves him…
what should i do?…should i hate him for what he
did?…or just let go and see where it leads us?…i
don’t want him to go….i just know i want him in my
life….
was i never

9 eric September 20, 2009

i’m a guy, and my best friend is going out with this girl that i like. I just found out that she has feelings for me too, but I don’t want to lose my best friend. Advice?… I feel lost

10 Lee Bell September 21, 2009

I am currently having an emotional affair with a married man on line. What started out as friendship has developed into an intimate and often sexually charged exchange. My marriage of ten years ended as a result of my ex-husband’s infidelity and I would have NEVER thought in a million years I would be sitting on this corner of a love triangle.
We decided to lay it all on the table and address our situation…..I expressed my concern and doubt with my own behavior and temptations to engage with him in a full blown affair….he admitted he has thought about it numerous times. We both agreed that the consequences were too great and chose to NOT meet up in person, but to let this ride and see where it goes.
It has become more and more complicated. Feelings are running deeper, desire deepens, and longing is out of control. We have progressed from flirting and talking to “going there” ober the phone.
I dont want him to leave his wife but the three I’s are killing me:
I – Inaccesible : Unavailable or difficult to reach or obtain.
Intimacy: Closeness, connection, confiding, friendship,
and sex.
Irony : incongruity, discordance, or unintended
connection that goes beyond the most
evident meaning.
How can I seriously be this intimate with someone sooo inaccessible? Ironic isn’t it?

11 A Non October 8, 2009

Hello,
I am 30 years old and I have been involved with a girl, 24, for nine months now. She lives with her partner and has been saying to me since I met her online at the end of last year that she is not in love with him in any way. She tells me I am the most attractive man she has ever met, the only man she is truly turned on by emotionally, psychologically and sexually all at the same time. She says that for the first time in her life, she sees sex as more than just sex, she sees it as making love. She says that she wants to leave him, that she wants to spend her life with me, marry me and grow old together.
I have not had the easiest of times over the last twelve months or just longer, I came out of a relationship where I ended things because I realised that if I didn’t stop and understand that I didn’t want it, I would end up having ‘another woman.’ So I ended it and the breakup combined with the stress of losing my flat, job and getting up to my eyeballs in debt drove me to two quite serious suicide attempts in a month.
The thing I can’t seem to shake is throughout knowing her, she has been more help and more of a rock to me in getting beyond and moving on from my last year. With her help, I have made more personal progress in my life than I believe I ever have. But it just hurts so much that I can’t lie with her. That she would choose not to just lie with someone else, but someone who has abused her both mentally and physically in ways I cannot even bring myself to think about sometimes. I know that he has broken her and I just don’t understand why she can’t see her own self worth.
I try to show her that she is stronger than him, but she just tells me how much I don’t understand and how he has supported her in ways I will never understand or know about and how it is so important to be friends with him after they break up. I guess I will never understand how or why she would ever want to be friends with someone who, drunkenly or otherwise, held a kitchen knife to her throat.
I have begun to lose friends and am feeling very much alone right now. The fact is, I have never felt like this about someone, or found it as easy to think about someone the way I think about her. I read this page and recognised all of the reasons I am upset right now. But a part of me just kept saying that “If we can just get through this,it will be alright.” Can something right ever come out of a love triangle? Can somebody please tell me that there is hope out there. I fell so very alone.

12 Relationship Coach Rinatta October 8, 2009

Dear So Very Alone,
I would love to tell you that triangles sometimes work out, that there relationship do in fact turn into life long wonderful exclusive relaitonships. Unfortunately, as much as want to spare you and shield you, the statistics say that less than 1% of triangles turn into monogamous happy marriages.
The best thing you can do right now is find the strength within to get up and rebuild your life and let your lover do what she must do with hers. It is possible that if she leaves her relationship situation on her own, without you in the picture, the two of you might find each other again, reconnect and live happily ever after.
From The Heart, Relationship Coach Rinatta

13 Lillian October 26, 2009

I know that this site is for the “other” person in the triangle of love, however, I am the wife in that triangle. I just want to say that I know about his affair and I know that he is madly in love with this woman….but he still loves me too. He lies to the “other woman” more than he does to me. She has no idea that we still sleep together…he won’t tell her. I guess all I really want to say is that probably 90% of married men having affairs are cheating on the “other woman” with their own wives.

14 A Non December 1, 2009

Hello.
This is ‘So Very Alone’ again. So I’ve managed to do it. Well, rather, she finally came to a decision and said that for now at least, we have to just remain as friends. I know this may be painful for me but I feel like the hopeless romantic in me just can’t give up completely and wants to at least give it some time for us being apart, to see if she can sort out what she needs to and I hope that will bring us back together one day. I guess time can only tell now. But I can see that I have been through basically, hell, since may of this year. I so wanted us to get to our anniversary, like somehow celebrating a year of a secret adulterous relationship would change things. I can see now that this is for the best. I just wish it didn’t hurt as much as I feel like I do right now.
The strange thing is I can see all of the things she would critcize me about and they were all brought on by the situation we were seeing each other in. But at least she actually said to me that she could finally see what she was doing was wrong, that it was’t fair on either me or her boyfriend. I guess that shows some semblance of care, right? I hope it’s enough, that without the worry and stress I can act like more of a grown up and without the guilt and the fear of getting caught that one day we can find each other again and properly begin what we started.
Maybe I am a fool for waiting in hope but I can’t help that beyond everything I have read here and on other similar sites, she has helped me so much with my life, as a friend. I know that the arguments aside, I love her more than anyone I have ever met and I can say that with my hand on my heart, honestly, that I have never given anyone the truth, commitment, honesty, dedication and loyalty that I have given her.

15 brooke December 22, 2009

hello… could you help me…
im in a hard position right now. my best friend introduced me to a guy who she likes. this guy is falling for me dramatically and my best friend is still in love with him. she gets realli annoyed and jealous everytime i tell her something about him that she wants to know like what hes saying to me and what im saying back. i dont know what to do because i think i like him a little but she is my best friend and i feel like i cant move becuase im going to hurt one of them. im 14, can anyone give me some advice?

16 LOSTINLOVE January 9, 2010

Hi….opinions please
I am with a guy that I truly love and he says he’s totally in love with me. We’ve both said that we are each others best friend. We have tattoos that we went and got together, I’ve been to his house, he has a key to mine, he’s met family and introduces me to people all the time when I’m with him. He has a girlfriend. They have children together and he says because his dad wasn’t around that he doesn’t want the same for his kids. Says he doesn’t want to “go pick up” his children and he doesn’t want the mother struggling to pay her own bills when they can all stay in HIS house and the kids won’t have to ask for anything. I commend him on that, I really do BUT….we’re suffering. Everytime we’re together, regardless of what we’re doing, he says this feels great or this is where I should be or something of the sort. He says with me he can be himself completely and can be happy whereas at home he spends most of his time with the kids. We even celebrated our 1 year anniversary. We’ve talked about Valentine’s day and doing things in the SUmmer. I’ve seen him cry and he even said he stopped seeing the other women he was because none of them could offer what I could.
I HATE THIS!!!!!!!! We are soooooooo alike but still our own people. We laugh, wrestle, watch the same kinds of movies, play little text message games, and are so sexually compatible. I’m just getting tired of not having him when I need him. It’s killing me that right now I need him and he probably doesnt even care. That’s not fair, but it’s how I feel. We both get up really early and he textes or calls me every morning, even when he is home. He says she’s not my competition because his heart is with me but his kids are most important.I’m tired of being an option for him. THE last time I walked away from him, he told me I took a piece of his soul andhe needed to be in my life. I love him dearly.
WHAT DO I DO????????

17 Still Lovesick February 8, 2010

Hi! I need an advise pretty bad. I really want to end this but there are things that prevent me from doing it. I think I still am in a love triangle. We both have long-time partners and have kids to care for. We started this thing nearly two summers ago. I never really thought I’d fall for him since I’m not keen on having one outside of my current relationship as I believe I’m fiercely loyal. But because we were always together at work, and that he pretty much worked hard to befriend and made me so close to him (and yes, we have already gone to bed a couple of times), I have fallen in love with him. We maintained this short, meaningful and discreet friendship/relationship until the day he left with his family for another country. I have never felt so much pain in my life.
I have been dealing with this painful feeling of longing and missing him for more than a year now. I wanted to make it stop but how can I if he doesn’t want to stop? He calls me like, every week and one time, we even indulged in phone sex. Every time I decide for myself to just not think about him anymore…or maybe even flirt with some other guy, I get a call from him. I don’t know if it’s just me but even when he was here we sort of developed this mental connection. One time I was so busy that I wasn’t able to talk to him for a month and I was really resolved to just forget about him. I thought that was it, but then he called and have been calling me ever since. I cannot stay away from him. It’s like he doesn’t want to release me yet. I still am madly in love with him. Maybe he’s just being true to his word that he wanted us to be friends forever. But I find it so difficult because of the distance. Forever is torture. Pretty soon he’s coming over for a vacation. I’m so excited to see him again and just be with him but at the same time I’m scared of feeling that pain again when he leaves. I can’t do it anymore. Help!

18 Confused but Happy February 8, 2010

I need advise really bad. I am engaged to a man. We’ve been together for a little over a year. We decided to let a good friend of ours enter what we had. Now it Me with my fiance and my best friend and all of us together. It’s been going on for a little over a week and I am very confused. I dont by any means want out of it, I just want healthy ways to cope with the inevitable jealousy that it is bringing. I am in love with my fiance dearly and slowly growing to love my best friend as well. We are all intimate and this is all oh so very confusing. Do you know ways we can all three learn how to cope in healthy ways with the slight twinges of jealousy and does this sort of thing ever work?

19 Confused but Happy February 8, 2010

forgot to mention, my best friend is female. sorry.

20 C Brakewell March 3, 2010

Good points raised here. Thanks for that, however my thanks don’t end there. I suffer from color blindness (tritanopia to be exact). I use Opera browser (no idea if that changes anything), and a large number of sites are challenging to understand due to an inconsiderate range of colors employed the design. On this web site, as the selection of colors is reasonable, the design is extremely tidy and easy to understand. I have no idea if this was a deliberate and considerate undertaking, or just good luck, but you have my gratitude.

21 vivian July 3, 2010

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and have been traveling away from him most of the times because of my career.
Now I am settle down and want to build a family with him. Suddenly, out of the blue, a girl called me and emails me that she have been seing my boyfriend for 3 years every weekends that I was not with him. I suffered so much pain and wanted to end it but now, still lingering on for 7 months because he keeps calling me. What should I do to get rid of this trial… that I want to get out so much but yet still stuck inside?

22 Croatia October 2, 2010

This is the 2nd occasion I have come across your blog post in the last couple weeks. Seems like I ought to take note of it.

23 Hollow February 10, 2011

Hello….
I’ve been involved in such a situation for months, before that I’ve never been in love. My life was empty and he filled it with lots with love and care and such things that I’ve never felt before. All what I’ve just read above is very true and really happened to me, I really felt all these feelings and got stuck in them all. The most strange thing is that his marriage life became much more perfect after knowing me and being with me even more than before and he admits that all. At the beginning of this relationship, I felt great but now it’s getting worse and worse for me and about him, his life became much more greater, at least he feels that he has a perfect life. I really can’t deny that I’m happy for being a reason of making his life better but at the same time I feel like being haunted by his love. A love with no hope. Actually I feel that I’m trapped and I’m afraid of getting back to my lonely life and I feel mad when I find myself such a poor unfortunate soul.

24 Vivi May 30, 2011

Dear Coach Renatta,

I never thought therapy could help me in my situation, but reading your articles were like reading my own mind. I have decided to move on from being the other, but I still feel sad and angry. Just one question: should I tell his girlfriend? I promised him I wouldn’t–i care about him deeply and was still trying to be friends, but is it ethical to stay silent? He would hate me if I did, but if it was for his own good…I just don’t know! A little insight?

-Vivi

25 A rose November 18, 2011

Hello there,
I havent told anyone how I truely feel about my situation and feel i need to get it out somehow. I met a guy at work last december and instantly felt like i knew him, like i wanted to be with him, if love at first sight was real then this is as close as it gets!

26 flower November 18, 2011

Hello there,
I havent told anyone how I truely feel about my situation and feel i need to get it out somehow. I met a guy at work last december and instantly felt like i knew him, like i wanted to be with him, if love at first sight was real then this is as close as it gets! I had never felt like this about anyone else ever and have a couple serious reltionships.i met him at work and We started talking on facebook one night and he gave me his number which i just couldnt believe! we started txting over christmas and i met up with him outside of work. I then go to work and update my friends to be told he has a girlfriend so watch out. I was gutted, i felt like i had been hit really hard. Yet, something about this guy just couldnt keep me away we saw eachother so often that it was as though i was his actual girlfriend and she was the other women. I didnt know much about her at all and he devoted his time to me sometimes staying over 5 nights in a row. he has had a few problems with his girlfriend, and ive always been there for him. The past few months he see’s me less often and i most certainly am the other women. I now know quite a lot about her and know he loves her very much. I love him so much, and used to believe him when he said he wanted to be with me and some day we will be together. But seeing how upset he was the last time they split up for a week or so, i am unsure how he feels towards me. I know he cares because he hates the thought of me beng with someone else. i just dont know what to do, i cant leave him, like this article says, the pain of not being with him will be far greater then the pain i feel now when i know he is with her. i love him so very much, but just cant leave, the thought of knowing where he is yet not seeing him makes me cry just thinking about it! i live with the slighest hope we will be together. If i leave him i will have lost, lost all my efforts, and the other girl with have him to herself, i cant bare the thought of them settling down…which i know he wont do while im still in the picture. Leaving him is just not an option, but i need someone who understands to talk to me. thanks.

27 Grace over Fire April 23, 2012

Good article.
The other thing I consider is he and his ex wife may not stay together. All the trying in the world may not keep them together. It’s not wishful thinking that you may get him back. It’s putting some perspective on it, because you may think he loves her more and thus you look like chopped liver. A great blow to your self esteem. We often don’t really know what’s behind their closed door. We often don’t know her intentions towards him. He may be making her look like a queen and she may be negotiating all the things he has to change before she takes him back. Mine went flying back to her arms wide open as soon as he found out she was seeing another man. To which she still might be. I see that not as love but ego. So it could go either way. But I remind myself of two things
1) They were split up, they had many problems, there was much fighting

2) I am free, free as a bird, I don’t have to work at my relationship, I don’t have to try to be anything but me. I don’t have to go back to something and go to counselling and take care of the kids and house. I am free to find anything, do anything I want. I am not in THEIR cage. And I often think.. whoa…. I was about to get into THEIR cage with THEM. My life does not have these things and did not have these things when we met. I am FREE !!

28 Joe Siloman August 6, 2012

I guess I am more of the classic scenario where I am the other man, and the woman I see is married. I can’t tell if this forum is still going, but if it is, I have an interesting story and would like to maybe try a session with the Dr.. It’s really amazing that the Other man can share so much in common emotionally with others in the situation. I thought I was the only one!

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